Your Message. Please prove you are human by selecting the Heart. I liken the dating mentality of Gay Londoners to a sushi restaurant conveyor belt. What makes Gay Londoners think they have endless dating options and why do they think they can afford to be so fussy? They come because they can be themselves in a tolerant city, meet others like themselves and start exciting new lives.
A survey revealed around gay men live in Greater London. That works out at around 70 gay men for every square mile.
With gay men tripping over each other in the streets — you would think there would be no need for dating apps; surely it should be easy to find a partner? It seems not. But in the meantime, they remain alone, using sex to provide a kind of intimacy and mask loneliness. But that can end up as a vicious circle as guys get stuck in a sex rut.
Gay men as well as the straights may well be able to chat with hundreds of other guys in the same city — but they are lonelier than ever. They now prefer to sit home alone in the glow of their screens while gay venues close. Door opens, get down to it, then leave. That is uncool and ungay. If that had all been left to develop, I think gay society would have matured and blossomed and, possibly, men could have learnt how to date and be in relationships.
But with the explosion of Gaydar and, later, Grindr, it allowed men to be overtaken by their hormones and reduce their interactions with each other to purely sexual.
In the end, they shunned the physical community as they found quicker routes to the sex they wanted without even leaving the house. The growth of our community was stunted. At least in , we have the technology to help us learn — if we want to. In Central London you would see at least 50 guys within metres. The guys out in those small towns would make an effort to chat, meet and get to know the guys nearby as there is clearly a limited number of opportunities. So they sit there alone, rejecting other men who could be a great match.
If the other guy is not in the same street or neighbourhood? Good luck with that.
Tindr also gives the impression that there is a never ending line of potential matches. But how many of those profiles are real or will swipe right on you?
How many will unmatch you or go silent after exchanging a few words? How many are actually in another country but just checking out your city for fun? Log In. Forgot account? Not Now. Our Story. We organise relaxed, friendly speed dating events for men who like men in the London area. We starte Community See All. About See All. Page Transparency See More. Facebook is showing information to help you better understand the purpose of a Page.
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People have taken it as an app for confused people. Maybe we're just thinking about it too much though. Maybe it's all pretty straightforward.
Like BRO's mission statement puts it, a place, "for men that are interested in meeting other men… as simple as that". Like I'm doing it all in secret.
That's not because I'm a homophobe who doesn't want to be tarnished with homosexuality. It's because I'm in a happy relationship and I wouldn't want the missus or her mates catching me on there I think that's all it is, anyway. Coercive control: 'I was 16 and thought it was normal'. First day horror stories: 'I crashed into a colleague's parked car'.
Share this:. Copy this link. What's it all about? Only one way to find out, I suppose. Let's get Why did you develop the app? Did you set out to cater for straight men, then?